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 in response to worn out...   

You will have to be careful. Here is a link for shelters in your area, Im not sure which is closest to you. There are also whats called SAFE houses, that are not listed for safety reasons. They can direct you to a safe house out of your area away from your abuser. Please call them when you are ready to leave. You need a plan, you need to have enough time to have your things ready. Take whatever you can as there will be very little conveniences in some cases. I worked with battered women and children at a shelter and some women had to leave barefoot in the middle of the night while he was sleeping in order to get away. as a result they had no bra or shoes..try to plan so you have your essentials and the shelters will help you get on your feet with legal assistance or medical and mental health. All services are free and they will do everything they can to protect you from your husband. My prayers are with you and I hope you find the strength to go before its too late.

http://www.ccadv.org/index.php/getting-help/crisis-numbers 

 in response to bookworm2011...   It sounds like you do know. Yes Iam ready to go with nothing but "my clothes". No material thing is worth your soul thats for sure. Your prayers are what means the most to me, there just has to be a way to do as you did and go far enough away to not have to worry ever again. Iam old, I don't know what direction to start, I just pray daily I will be able to get the money together to go and never look back. The thought of being in my own place brings me peace and the will to keep trying. Now if the mountains could just move.....I would be forever grateful. Thank you.

 in response to worn out...   

my heart goes out to you, I have been in your place and endured physical and mental abuse in my first marriage for over 8 years. I will not speak of the trauma he put me through because I have moved on, but it took years of being miserable and almost being killed before I left. I, like you, had no control of my money or assets..he controlled everything and I traded the security of a big home, nice cars and money in the bank for nothing except what mattered most to me, my life and my children. We walked away with the clothes on our backs, literally. He would not permit me to take a book, toy, nothing..I borrowed 2,000 from my father and took one of his cars, and drove 500 miles in the other direction. We struggled, we damn near starved, almost became homeless, but WE WERE SAFE! The first night I layed down in my own home and knew I wouldnt be awakened to being choked or smothered with a pillow, I had such a sense of peace I cried..you have to be ready to walk away from it all, you have to be ready for a new chapter in your life, one that although it may bring joy and eventually peace, will be very scary for a while. I wish you the best and can talk whenever you need to, if you prefer, message me in a one to one..here is a link for safe houses, womens shelters and other resources that are available in your area. Praying that God blesses and protects you char

http://portal.hud.gov/hudportal/HUD?src=/states/colorado/homeless/shelters#safe 

Iam a 55 year old woman who has been abused by my husband for 25+ years. Why do I stay do you ask? Because he controls the money. my every move, my life. I want out so badly and want to move away. I need help. I have no family, no friends and can't take the physical and mental abuse anymore. Iam getting old and it takes longer and longer to recover not to mention my soul is slowly slipping away. I have never known happiness. Peace. Being secure. Iam afraid he is going to kill me his sense of reality is going further and further away. Please help me, please.